The Power to Choose: Finding Calm and Connection in a Complex World
When stress, pressure or difficult relationships take over, it’s easy to react on autopilot - to snap, shut down, or pull away when we most want connection.
But even in the hardest moments, there is always a choice… and learning to use that choice changes everything.
The Power to Choose is a practical, compassionate guide to shifting from automatic reaction to conscious, intentional response. Through honest stories, coaching insights and reflective practices you can use straight away, it shows how small shifts in awareness can transform stress into steadiness, conflict into connection, and overwhelm into clarity.
Whether you're navigating pressure at work, wrestling with difficult conversations, or simply wanting more calm and purpose in your daily life, this book will help you build the inner space to choose how you lead, how you relate and how you show up - even amid complexity.
What you’ll learn…
How to notice the moment you begin contracting, so you can choose your response.
Ways to find steadiness and calm when everything feels overwhelming.
How to meet difficult conversations with curiosity instead of defensiveness.
How to reconnect with people instead of shutting down or withdrawing.
How to stay anchored under pressure.
How to create more space for purpose, presence and connection.
Praise:
“Each time I talk with Robbie, he gives me a new thought to think about.”
— Robert Holden, author, Authentic Success
“Robbie introduced me to my own potential and I am so grateful to have met him.”
— Shivangi Raghuvanshi, Lead Program Manager, Asia, Microsoft
“Whilst my workload is exactly the same, if not increased, I feel more in control of my time, my diary, my work, my life.”
— Professor Leonie Taams, King’s College London
Latest reviews:
‘I can't think of many books that fit so many useful, transformative ideas into 200 pages in such a readable and thought-provoking way. Would highly recommend.’ Al, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘This is such a simply laid out, powerful book - each chapter focusing on one simple practice that can totally change the way you engage with others, with yourself, with your goals and your doubts. Robbie's genius is to break down ideas into simple, tangeable, and most of all actionable ideas with clear guidance on how to think about them in our day to day lives.’ Hols, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘The flow, the structure, the consistent themes and the end-of-chapter summaries tie it all nicely together as a solid, dependable guide people can keep coming back to when they need it.’ Scott, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Watch back the book launch conversation:
To celebrate the book’s release, I was in conversation with Susan Ní Chríodáin (author of Leading Beyond the Numbers), exploring how we stay grounded and connected even when life feels complex.
Watch the recording below:
The Power to Choose - Bonus Materials for Readers
Buy the book and get access to:
The Action Sheet: A one-page guided practice to help you turn insight into action.
The Action Book: Summaries of the practices and reflection exercises from The Power to Choose, gathered in a simple, useful format you can return to again and again.
These resources are exclusively for readers of the book, and will make it easier to apply the ideas in your day-to-day life.
Inside the book, you’ll find a link that takes you to a private page where you can download both.
